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Sometimes in the
process of repairing
things that have broken,
we actually create
something more unique,
beautiful and resilient. Embracing the
imperfect means that we
celebrate our strengths.
This shift of mindset, from
striving for an impossible
ideal to embracing our
strengths, leads to a more
positive and
strength-oriented mindset.
Before we can make the
change to something
better, we must believe
that something positive
can be created from the
negative.
Think about it... I can
only repair the broken
pieces by understanding
the whole.
Kintsugi is the Japanese
art of putting broken
pottery pieces back
together with gold.
This is built on the
idea that in embracing
flaws and imperfections,
you can create an even
stronger, more beautiful
piece of art.
Every break is unique
and instead of repairing
an item like new, the
400-year-old technique
actually highlights the
'scars' as part of the
design. Using this
as a metaphor for
healing ourselves
teaches us an important
lesson.
Everything happens for a
reason, and there is no
difficult situation that
comes our way without a
purpose. That purpose is
for us to become
better, resilient and
more grateful
individuals. When we can
work through the broken
parts, it is fair to say
that we become more
cohesive. Surely we
could also become more
centered and focused on
our life's path while
becoming a part of the
unified 'whole.'
The theory is sound, but
not often very easy to
achieve. What if the
broken thing you want to
repair is with your own
family. Sometimes
achieving the 'whole'
would be in allowing
yourself to forgive,
understand and just move
on. From my point of
view, we choose the path
that we are currently
walking on.
Sometimes that means
that we will be in a
situation that has
enormous challenges,
grief and pain. Get our
of the box of your own
situation and look at it
more objectively. If the
broken parts can be
repaired; if this is
important to you, create
a solution and start
working on it.
Remember, you can only
do your part! A real
show of strength will be
to step out of your
comfort zone and give it
a try. Be willing to
forgive and admit that
you might not have
handled something in the
best way you could.
Sometimes it is when we
allow the other person
space to be a little bit
'right,' we can open a
line of communication.
Once we can talk about
the issue, the words
will get a little easier
and the wall of
protection we built will
become a softer
boundary. When we build
walls around the issue
that means we don't plan
to allow anything to
change. Our walls
most often prohibit
change while a boundary
is more flexible and
will allow movement and
adjustments.
That all sounds good,
but what if there is
nothing that can be done
to repair the broken
parts? Do the best you
can, learn everything
possible from the
situation, forgive
others and don't forget
to forgive yourself.
If this is part of your
path in this life, it is
critical you learn all
of the lessons in order
not to repeat them or
pass them on to others
in your life's
partnerships. Some of my
clients has experienced
this as a 'generational'
life's goal. When that
is the case it will most
often represent patterns
and behavior that has
been passed down through
many generations.
Often we see that as
tradition or culture of
a particular ethnicity.
Not all of our
traditions are good, and
some represent abuse and
control of others. When
that is the case, this
is usually when we
choose to be born into a
set of circumstances to
experience and then
effect change. This
paragraph alone raises a
lot of questions, but
then that might allow
for communication, and
the consideration of
repairing something that
is broken.
Now that we have that
profound possibility on
the table for
discussion... I can't
help but wonder how such
a simple concept might
not apply to my town, my
state, my country, my
planet. I know we won't
all agree, but it is in
talking and allowing for
other points of view
that we can find a
'place in the middle'
that might work for each
of us. In life the
lessons we do not learn
we are destined to
repeat until we do.
May I encourage you to
visit another part of my
website and learn how to
do something that will
empower you to change
many things you may feel
powerless over. Many
people have told me of
how much
"Heart2Heart"
has helped them as they
changed things in their
own lives. More
than that, when they
start to see the
results, they are
turning their focus on
some of the events we
are each facing on a
daily basis.
When we take a moment to
think about it... we are
each a perfect being
experiencing an
imperfect life. No one
ever said it would be
easy, but I hope you
will remember that you
are a part of 'all that
is' which means that the
cellular structure of
that body you currently
occupy is something very
special. In my book that
makes you extraordinary!
Now, go change your life
and that of as many
others as you can. |
